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What
does it mean to be real?
Being real means being able to be honest with yourself about what is going on around you and within you. You know what I mean? Sometimes we think it is easier to push our feelings away and pretend like they don't exist. This is not being real. Being real means taking a look at those feelings no matter how hard or how uncool it might seem. When you are able to look at how you are feeling, it opens up a way to communicate more honestly and more clearly about what you want and what you don't want. When you can be clear about what you want and what you don't want, you operate from a place of strength. That doesn't mean being able to bully people around, but being able to make choices that are best for you without allowing outside sources to influence you. What do u think happens when u can do all this? U start to treat urself with respect and because of that, others treat u with respect ...and you know what? As you open up more to the world, the world opens up more to you. And that is what it means to be real! |
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Trust
Trust can be a tricky issue to understand because most people think of trust as being able to trust someone to do something they said they were going to do. Think of this: suppose you have a friend that cheats on his tests and he tells you that he wants to sit next to you in class but he won't cheat off of you. What do you do? This is a good friend of yours. You probably want to believe that he wouldn't cheat off you. This is where trust comes in. Trust really means trusting yourself to make a decision that you will be happy about and also trusting yourself to be able to deal with any outcome. U have the power of choice. That means, u have to first trust urself to make a choice that best suits u. So check with ur inner checkpoint (if u don't know what that is check it out on this same page). What is it telling u. Do u want him to sit next to u or not. Think about it for a minute...don't worry about hurting his feelings, think about how this is going to affect YOU and make your decision based on that. Remember, you can still be his friend, but you don't have to put yourself in a situation that might affect you in a negative way. Being a friend to yourself has to come first and when you are able to do that, being a friend to other people comes more easily. And think about this, if he did cheat off u, how would you feel if u believed that he wouldn't...and would that help him in the long run? Check with your inner checkpoint in these situations. It will never lie to u! So ask urself, can u trust urself to make a good choice for U? |
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Finding
ur Inner Check Point
Think of urself as a living compass. U have built-in guidance and direction for which way to go no matter what the situation is. So how do u find it? Try this out: think of something that u just love to eat, like ice cream or chocolate. Do you have it? Imagine eating it right now! While u r imagining, notice how it feels to eat ur favorite food. Notice what it feels like in ur stomach area just below ur ribs. It makes me feel excited, how about u? Now think of something that u can't stand to eat...u'd feed it to ur dog if u could. Now imagine eating that and notice how that makes u feel. Makes me feel icky like I want to spit it out, how about u? Can u see the difference in how it feels in ur body? Go back and forth and imagine the 2 again and really notice how it feels in ur stomach area. This is ur inner check point or compass. It can help u in ALL of ur decision making. Now, when u are faced with a decision, go to ur compass. FEEL each choice and see which one feels best to u. Sometimes ur head wants to try to tell u something different...if it conflicts with ur compass, don't listen to it. Ur inner checkpoint will ALWAYS point u in the right direction. Trust it and use it often! |
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LOVE So
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Hurt/Disappointment
Have u ever felt disappointed that something didn't happen or something didn't go the way u planned? What do u think made u feel disappointed? Was it because someone didn't do what they said? Or because you didn't get the result u wanted? Do u think it is someone else's fault that u are hurt or disappointed? Think about this. Can anyone tell u to be hurt or angry? What do u think? No one can really tell u to be hurt, so it's caused by u, and ur thoughts, right? When u are disappointed or hurt or angry, be careful not to blame other people for ur feelings. U are the only 1 who can control those feelings. So what's another way u can handle it? 1st, remember, it's ok to feel hurt or disappointed. 2nd, it is great to talk about it and get it worked out. A lot of times disappointment comes from misunderstandings... so talk to the person u have a misunderstanding with. When u do, try sentences like, I felt hurt because "this" is what happened, but I expected "that" to happen. What u want to communicate is that u feel hurt and not that they did something wrong. So if u phrase ur sentences to let them know ur feelings rather than that they were wrong, u will have a better chance of working it out. Understand? Sometimes disappointment comes from putting our trust in someone else instead of in ourself...like u just knew (ur inner compass was telling u) that this was a bad situation, but u did it anyway. And then u get upset in the end because it turned out bad. So if this happens, what can u do? Well, do u want to walk around disappointed or do u want to figure out how to do it differently next time? That's ur choice. So maybe instead of focusing on ur disappointment, think about what other options u have. What positive came out of this situation? How could u do it differently next time? Remember, there are always many, many options, u just have to open urself up to them. Learn from ur disappointments by looking at all the components of it, focus on the positive that came out of it, and figure out what u can do to get a different outcome next time. This gives u the power of choice rather than expecting someone else to do something or change for u. |
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Comparing
urself
U might take a look around u at other people and think, man, they have it so good. They don't have to put up with a wacky family like mine and all the stuff I have to do and everything comes so easily for them. But u know what, just because u think they don't have challenges doesn't mean they don't. What I mean is, everyone does a pretty good job of wearing a mask. If u get underneath the mask, u might realize that they are a lot like u despite how their outer appearance might look. Keep this in mind next time u want to compare urself to someone else. Some people may be looking at u and thinking how easy u have it! The truth is, unless u live someone else's life, u really don't know what their life is like. What we are talking about is judgment and assumption. Judging someone or assuming they are a certain way without really knowing is very hurtful...to them and to u. Don't judge a person on what their mask is showing u. Instead, try getting to know that person and see what amazing gift they have to share with u. Remember, we are all works in progress. No one is perfect, including u. |
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U R A GIFT!
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BODY
IMAGE vs SELF IMAGE
Did you know there is a difference between how you view your body vs how your view your self? I didn't. I thought they were one in the same. BUT, if they were one in the same, that would mean that the only thing that makes you YOU, is your body. That's not right, is it? That would leave out all those great things you love about yourself like your personality, how you make people laugh, your style, your kindness, your hope, your talents, your dreams...all those amazing things that really make you YOU. So body image is just that, how you feel about your body. It can be easy to confuse the 2. There is so much focus in the media about how we are suppose to look or not look and how we should eat and not eat that is it easy to get caught up in feeling bad about yourself because you don't look or eat the way you are "suppose" to. Here's a secret. Most of us don't like the way our body looks. Most of us think we are suppose to look the way people do on TV. But we don't. And the fact is, we may never look that way. It is an inaccurate picture. (Check out this exercise for an example! COVER MODEL) The truth is, we all come in different sizes and our bodies are ever changing. So why focus all that negativity on yourself about the way you look when you have so many other amazing qualities. If you feel bad about yourself because you don't like your body, change your focus to the things you like about yourself. Make a list of them. Keep your focus on the positive. Energy flows where your thoughts go. So that means, if you keep focusing on negative parts of yourself, that image will get bigger, but if you focus on the positive parts of yourself, that image will get bigger. GET IT? Separate how you feel about your body from how you feel about yourself and have the courage to show us the REAL YOU know matter what your body looks like. That is the REAL YOU we want to see! |
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SO,
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R
U 4 REAL?
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Ok,
well first of my problems start off with my age. i am currently 12 years
old and
have the mind and body of a 16 year old so therefor times are hard and i am going through things that i shouldnt be going through. Whether its guys, clothes, friends, and tons more. I am a 4.0 student and have had some of the highest scores on my Iowa tests. School has been great and the people are awesome but race is an issue cause sometimes i am not treated fairly and i see other people who arent treadted as they should. Sports and poetry help me get through rough times i express myself so deeply in those ways cause i have no one else to tlak to. All my friends are immature and not on my level and my parents treat me as my age which is hard for my to abide by their rules. Even though these are not half the problems i face; my life is not as horrible as it seems because i get through it with my head up; I would like to help kids my age understand and conquer their problems also. Kassie, LA |
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My
favorite things about school are all my friends and all of my fun classes
and teachers. I think that the teacher can either make or break the class. If the teacher tries different things and fun projects, then I learn more. But, if the teacher is mean and doesn't care about what he/she is teaching, then the students aren't going to learn anything at all. My least favorite things about school are all the homework. A lot of the book work is really boring and I don't learn anything from it either. So, I often just don't do the bookwork because it's too boring for me to concentrate on. Sometimes I feel bored with the stuff we are doing in school because it's really easy and the teacher has to go slow for the kids who don't understand it. I wish that all the classes could be divided into the level of skill for that specific subject. Like, in my school, if you place into the smart english class, you also have to go into the smart History class. But, even though I'm good at english, I really don't understand history, so in history i'm always confused but in english i'm always bored. I wish they would change that. Melissa, WA |
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The
thing i hate about school is the bus getting to and from school because
there are some people that are really mean to me adn they even started
a hate katie club and i mean i don't like them so you would think i don't
care what they think but i do it really hurts and i lay in bed at night
crying and wondering why they hate me so much i mean one of they peopl
that does this used to be my best friend and another one used to be my
boyfriend and i just don't no why they hate me and it kinda ruins my day
cause cause i see them first thing and they hurt my feelings then the
whole day at school i wonder why they hate me i am just so confussed i
don't no what to do cause somtimes i do try to be nice but then i just
get so mad and i can't!!
Katie, IN |
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Many
students cringe at the word school. However, some students
love school. I feel that school is a privaledge and that some students need to understand that there are children in other countries that are so excited to even get to step into a classroom. In some subjects, I feel a challenge but most the stuff I already know, but in Honors Math (no I'm not what those snobs that put labels on people)their is many challenge. Xondria, TX |
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I
never really noticed how many families are homeless, poor or alone.
Where I live, |
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